Katie Leason reports on the internet sites that bring together young people and adults and provide a sense of community for those who would otherwise feel isolated
Jennifer is getting ready to meet her friends in the youth club at 8pm. She has been looking forward to it all day but before then she needs to do a few things. First, she has an appointment at her doctor’s surgery; then she plans to go to the gym to discuss a new workout with her instructor; after that, if time allows, she wants to pop to the library to pick up the latest magazine article on science. Time is against her, though, as it is already 7.15pm: it’s a good thing she can do all of her errands from the comfort of her bedroom.
Twice he has posted messages himself – when his father died and when he was desperate for support with his self-harming – but each time he received just one response, which left him upset and questioning why he bothered. Now, instead of posting his own messages, he is more inclined to take part in the community by responding to other people’s requests.
As for the social relationships that have developed as a result of the forum, there are pros and cons. Despite most of the communication being anonymous, Cotton says that it “can be very real”, and as if you are talking to someone you are sitting next to. And he feels he can be more honest about his difficulties than he would be with his family and friends. Yet, at the same time, although he feels a sense of belonging to the community, it is in a restricted sense as there tends to be a core of people who dominate the forum.
“You can feel excluded. It can be like a circle in a support group but with the feeling that your chair is outside the circle.”
For all its downsides, Cotton remains a keen forum participant, spending about two hours a day on the site. Being able to identify with other members and finding what they have to say helpful has generally outweighed any niggles.
But in some sectors, virtual communities spell nothing but trouble. Websites and message boards aimed at people with eating disorders are a clear example. The Eating Disorders Association says there are thousands of these sites on the internet and warns that most are dangerous. Many encourage people to eat less, offer tips on how young people can deceive their parents and suggest ways to avoid treatment. While other message boards may offer vulnerable people advice and support on how to deal with an issue, those aimed at people with eating disorders are too often focused on the reverse.
The problem, says a spokesperson for the EDA, is that if people have been suffering alone, these communities can be seductive. “When you are a new visitor on a site and you come across someone who completely understands how you feel and the sorts of things concerning you, it is easy to think that, because they understand you, they must be right. People may feel supported when they are on the site but it’s not the right sort of support. It’s difficult to say there are any advantages or benefits to these sites.”
So it seems that assessing the overall effectiveness of virtual communication for vulnerable people is as yet beyond reach. That some people benefit from it is clear; that others may be hurt by it equally so. As more people go online, its popularity is sure to increase. The challenge is to ensure it is popular for the right reasons.
* Name has been changed
(1) N Vivian, F Sudweeks, Social Networks in Transitional and Virtual Communities, Murdoch University, Australia, 2003
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