Well, think again.
OK, I don't really think that you think domestic violence isn't insidious. In fact, I'm quite sure you think the opposite. It's just that I started typing and the title came to me, and I thought I should go with it. It's kinda snappy, right? And let me tell you, it's not easy coming up with blog entry titles day in and day out. Sometimes I sit and stare at the screen for several minutes before one comes to me. Oh, I suppose I could not title the entries, but then they would feel incomplete....like leaving the house without shoes.
Say you: You digress.
Say me: I did. Onward.
I saw a woman not long ago who was able to leave an abusive husband almost two decades ago. She left him, took the kids, made a life for herself and has never questioned her decision.
The problem is that he's never let go. He still calls her. Sometimes several times a week. And if she has the nerve to not pick up the phone when he calls (which is most of the time) then he starts driving circles in her apartment complex. Over and over and over again. If she's not home, he'll wait for her to get home and then accost her: I love you! I need you! I want you back! Oh, she's tried to change her phone number. She's tried to move, but she's on a fixed income and moving is expensive. She's tried filing VPOs. Sometimes he'll leave her alone for up to a year. But he always comes back. Always. Like a fungus, he is.
Let's be clear here: They divorced in 1990.
And ultimately, this is what domestic violence is about. It's about control. He STILL manages to have the upper hand--to have her looking over her shoulder, to have her afraid to answer her phone, to have her fearful to leave her apartment without a friend-- and it's been 19 years since she left.
She never really broke free, did she? ->
National Domestic Violence Hotline
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26 Aug 2009 3:26 PM
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