You "professionals" may question my decision... Here are the answers...
My son was diagnosed ADHD at 7 yrs old
He has a criminal recored as long as my arm
He is on a 2 years ASBO
He verbally and physically attcaks me and my property on a regular basis
He is permenantly excluded from education
He has been described as being a risk to himself, and others...
I've had this sh*t for 14 years, enough is enough...
I am a proffessional person with a good education, not quite sure where it all went wrong!
Comments welcome, thank you!
Have the Local Education Authority offered him an "alternative" education? Has he ever been in a PRU Pupil Referral Unit.
Smokey: Have the Local Education Authority offered him an "alternative" education? Has he ever been in a PRU Pupil Referral Unit.
Why do you feel the need to hang your dirty washing out on here?
Everyone has their limits, you reached yours and made a decision. I would argue that this is better than putting your head in the sand.
Ok so it may not be an ideal solution for your boy, he may feel rejected, uncertain about his future, scared or angry. However the social worker in me says 'at least he is in a place of safety'. If you were feeling so helpless and out of control that you could no longer parent him, requesting he be accommodated was the responsibile thing to do (its not unheard of for some parents to pile their kid's stuff into blackbuinlers and turf him/ her out on to the street with no safe place to go).
I hope you both receive the support you need to rebuild your relationship and eventually have him return home.
Good luck.
I don't have any answers for you but would like to say that I really feel for you. It seems as if you are trying to justify your decision to yourself rather than asking for advice. Being a parent is the hardest job in the world and the most distressing when things don't work out like you hope. It sounds as if you have reached breaking point and reached out for help. There's nothing wrong in that, it may even work out for the best in that you may finally get some support to find a way forward. I wish both you and your son well for the future.
You may consider this issue as hanging out my dirty washing, I am, but in reality, I'm crying out for help.
I'm struggling to deal with my emotions, as well as my sons. I have been in contact with my son daily since he was placed into the assessment centre. He is permenantley excluded from PRU and refuses home tutoring.
The assessment centre (granted for 3 months) have already reported 'Extreme behaviour', 'H & S risk'. An emergency referral to CAHMS was made, on Tuesday, however, he still hasn't been seen.
I suppose I came on here to blurt out my decision to see what sort of feedback I recieved???
Thank you for the positives, hopefully, this may be what he needs as a short, sharp, shock to pull him back into line, however, this may lead further into his man made path of self-destruction... Time will tell.
Apologies.
You've no need to apologise to us.
Take care,
TP.
You have no need to apologise.
You needed to get that off your chest and you chose the best way to do it.
Hope you're ok, and everything works out in the end
+1.
Best of luck.
Actually, what help do you want from us?