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Is all parental contact 'good' contact?

Last post 08-04-2008 11:55 AM by rach_79. 6 replies.
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  • 06-10-2008 10:44 PM

    Is all parental contact 'good' contact?

     Hello

    I am doing my dissertation on 'good' and 'bad' parental contact for children in long term foster care so I would find it very helpful to get different views on this. Do you think all parental contact is good? What circumstances do you think it would not be 'good' contact?

    Also, do you think face to face contact is better? Or is telephone or email etc sometimes preferred by the children? 

    Rachel Drinks 

     

  • 07-16-2008 10:54 AM In reply to

    Re: Is all parental contact 'good' contact?

    Having worked in a contact centre I think that the lack of consistency in contact is the key rather than it's existence (as that is a case by case issue).  As a worker if I had a case that was fully supervised then it was just that.  I didn't let parents take the children to the toilet alone, outside alone, I was present at every moment, however not all workers saw supervised contact as this and the lack of consistency between workers led to huge problems for the children and the workers.  One child verbalised the lack of supervision as feeling a worker didn't care about her as much, especially when mum was known to coherse the children into lying about dad's abuse.  Other children saw the workers who did supervise contact appropriately as OTT.

    As for phone and email contact, again, I think issue here is whether the contact is to be supervised.  I was always shocked that if contact were to be fully supervised then why were the parents allowed to call the children where conversation is completely unsupervised?  I had a mother tell her teenage daughter, who was in long term foster care, that she planned to kill herself, when this case had a court order for fully supervised contact.

    As for which is preferred, I think it completely depends on the case.  Although I know my team had no room in budgets for facilitating text communication, however the older children preferred this.

  • 07-25-2008 10:26 AM In reply to

    Re: Is all parental contact 'good' contact?

    rach_79:

     Hello

    I am doing my dissertation on 'good' and 'bad' parental contact for children in long term foster care so I would find it very helpful to get different views on this. Do you think all parental contact is good? What circumstances do you think it would not be 'good' contact?

    Also, do you think face to face contact is better? Or is telephone or email etc sometimes preferred by the children? 

    Rachel Drinks 

     

     

    may be too simplistic here but, no, not al contact is good. It is not good when it is abusive and puts children at risk.

  • 07-30-2008 2:05 PM In reply to

    Re: Is all parental contact 'good' contact?

     Hi Popeye thanks for your reply. From my primary research, I did find that face-to-face was preferred but one respondent preferred letter writing as she felt safer, which was interesting. Surprisingly one of the children said he preferred supervised contact as the social worker was there to discipline him, as his parents would not. It's interesting about the 'consistency' of contact as I did find that if a child is always getting ad-hoc contact, then it leaves them in limbo so it is better is the child does not have any contact, especially if the child is not planned to return home.

    ThanksSmile

  • 07-30-2008 2:10 PM In reply to

    Re: Is all parental contact 'good' contact?

     Yeah I did find this when I was doing my reading. Some research found the child if child was abused he/she is more likely to have a stable placement if there is no contact, but it is complex.

  • 08-01-2008 1:54 PM In reply to

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    Re: Is all parental contact 'good' contact?

    I hope this reply is not too late for your dissertation.  There was a piece of research by Brynna Kroll titled 'milk bottle, messenger, monitor, spy' published in Child Care in Practice in July 2000 about children's experience of contact in cases of separation and divorce.  Some of the issues are relevant to contact for children in foster care.  An abstract of it can be found by following this link: http://www.informaworld.com/smpp/content~content=a789697915~db=all~order=page - a copy of the original publication should be available through your uni library, however I have a copy of the full article if you contact me

  • 08-04-2008 11:55 AM In reply to

    Re: Is all parental contact 'good' contact?

     Hi Aitch

    Thanks very much for that article. I have actually handed my dissertation in in June but this article is still very interesting and useful for my placement so will look at it.

     

    Smile 

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