I think that 'compassion' isn't what we're wanting from social care workers - but I don't mean that we don't need compassion, rather that 'compassion' isn't quite the right word... And whatever the quality is that we are looking for it isn't going to be something that can be measured in any kind of objective way (although we can easily see it and make subjective judgements about whether someone has it).
I meet all sorts of social care workers - from senior managers to cleaners - and there's something that just a few people have which is priceless. I'm sure that it (whatever we call this quality) can't be 'measured' - but I'm just as sure that it can be recognised (and should be rewarded), and that it can be grown in people if they are open enough.
For instance - in connection with people learning some specific processes - I have lots of experience training people to ask open questions... questions that don't lead a conversation... and to listen intensely... and to convey 'unconditional positive regard'... and not to convey judgements in what they say. Like with many things, there seem to be three groups of people:
- Group 1 are few in number - they take to this like a duck to water. They seem to be people who have a particular personality - but I wouldn't use the word 'compassionate' for them - vague words like 'human' or 'humble' and others like 'determined' come to mind. They are people who find it easy not to convey judgements about people because they naturally aren't making any - at least they are judging, but somehow conveying that they know that life is hard, we're all human, and that people are all of value - and very much they convey that they don't think they are any better than the person they are speaking to. They may rant - but even their rant has a particular quality. And they find it easy to show that they are listening intently, because they are naturally intensely interested.
- Group 2 is pretty big. They struggle more, but they can be very good at what they do because they know they are struggling, and they try really hard to get better. They can learn how to listen intently, they can learn how to demonstrate that they are intensely interested, they can learn to notice that they are unintentionally conveying a judgement in what they say, they can learn to ask open questions. They have some humility (maybe that's the word I'm looking for) and aren't too proud to see their failings. And they really care. So they either get better at their jobs by learning new skills and seeking real (difficult) feedback, or alternatively they find a place where their natural talents suit the work (perhaps they find a role where listening intently isn't required).
- Group 3 neither have the natural personality and skill of group 1, nor the type of character of those in group 2. They might not agree that they have anything much to learn. They may think that the problems with their service are someone else's responsibility. They may simply not be very interested in people (and yes I really do meet some social care staff who just don't seem to like people much). And here's the hard thing - I'm not saying that these people are all nasty or rude or overbearing - some of these people are compassionate people, or 'nice' or 'friendly' people, or people who lack self-confidence, or people who do care a lot about the people they support.
For people who use services and their families one of the most difficult challenges can be when they finally get a social worker who they like. When previously it's been clear that they were going to have to fight tooth and nail for any help because the social worker simply didn't seem to care all that much, suddenly they are confronted with someone they don't want to offend. This can be someone who is compassionate and sits and sympathises. Someone 'nice'. But when they are asking for help that doesn't tick boxes - something a little bit out of the box - something that will have to be fought for (like it or not) - then this compassionate social worker becomes yet another barrier to overcome - after all, it's nice to have someone listen at long last, and even though we know they will take 'no' for an answer without making much fuss they do come back and deliver the news gently.
So what is the word then? 'Humility', 'a belief in our common humanity', 'openness'? Can it be one word? Is it possible to capture this in a few words, or do we need a long and rambling account of that quality like the one I've just written?
Do we need to know when people have it and when they don't - YES I'm sure we need that.
Can we measure it objectively - NO we can't. Can we look for it, see it, encourage it, reward it, and nurture it in the workforce -YES, but not through a simple training programme, or a workplace assessment, or through targets, or any other impersonal process. It's much harder quality to deal with than that. It's a human quality, and it the tools that help us grow it are human tools: great leadership or inspiring mentors or intense personal reflection or honest human feedback from people we really trust.