I have recently retired after 35 years in social work. The last 12 as a senior social worker in a very busy field child and family team. Yes there are some books that are useful but the best resource is yourself. Visit the children, take them out or spend time with them away from the adults. Being genuinely caring and open and honest about what you are doing and why and saying difficult things when you have to, is the only way. Keep it as simple as possible for yourself and your service users (how I hate that phrase). If you haven't got an answer, say so, but you'll try and find out. We are not miracle workers. There is an argument that all intervention is therapeutic. You did not train to be a therapist or a counsellor you trained to be a social worker. David Howe and Gillian Schofield and their work on attachment theory and their input in lots of other social work theory books and literature are worth reading and re-reading. You will find that your children will lead the way for you.
Social work training does not prepare you for anything in my view, except how to pass assignments. I did not qualify until I was 44 years old and while, I'm glad I did, nothing prepared me for the change from adult services to children. I was so scared and I'd been doing direct work as a care manager for more than 20 years. It's ok to be scared, in fact the newly qualified oh so confident social workers really scare me because they don't know they don't know. I benefited from working alongside more senior worker for the first 2 years and really good supervision. Latterly I worked in a coaching/mentoring capacity to less experienced workers and that I feel is the way forward. However, experienced social workers are now thin on the ground. If I knew how I'd create a website to try and help newly qualified social workers, as I am so worried that you are all leaving the profession in droves. Good luck and have faith in yourself. Mary B