Do we think enough about love for children in care?

Care experienced social worker Selina Anderson reflects on this year's Care Experienced Conference

Artwork on display at the conference. Photo: Flickr/LiverpoolHopeUniversity

By Selina Anderson

On the 26th April 2019, the first conference organised by those who had experienced the care system was held at Liverpool Hope University.

The vision of the conference was two-fold. One, to create a space where the care experienced community could have an opportunity to share their views about being in care. The other, to offer an event which was aspirational and celebrated the many care leavers who had achieved success within their life.

Care experienced attendees were given a t-shirt and goodie bag which included positive messages of affirmation. Raffle tickets were provided to each attendee on entry and they all won a gift; authors donated signed books for some of the prizes. There was an artwork installation created by children in care councils.

Sharing stories

Workshops designed for both care experienced people and social care professionals took place throughout the day, three of which I facilitated. I led the introductory session for care leavers over the age of 25. The group had between 17-20 care experienced adults, and after some brief introductions, there was a sense of a shared purpose in the room.

One woman who shared her story told the group that two of her children were removed from her care and that after trying everything in her power to get them back, unfortunately they still remained apart. She now sits on a national campaign board called Every Child Leaving Care Matters, which seeks to raise awareness of how isolating being a care leaver can be for many.

Another woman told the group how she had moved foster families so many times and the effect this had on her going into adulthood, feeling she had no one to turn to. She now works with young people in care, managing an independent visitor service to try to ensure that children who move foster families are still able to have a consistent person in their life.

The other two sessions I led were on Love and Relationships and were attended mainly by those who are currently in care. Discussion within the group was encouraged. One young lady spoke of a negative experience she’d had with her social worker: she felt she was never treated with respect. She told us how she had questioned this and posed a good suggestion: if the local authority have all of her information, why was she not able to know basic information about her social worker by way of a profile?

Pledges from senior figures

Many other topics were raised throughout the sessions and as a group we listened, discussed, and considered what could be done differently. Many attendees spoke of positive experiences and strong relationships with foster carers and social workers, and of the need to have their own friendships supported.

Towards the end of the day, all attendees came together to share insights from the days’ sessions. A key theme that arose was the seeming lack of priority for mental health support: many felt as though mental health was not joined up enough and that there is a difficult transition between children and adult mental health services.

Another recurring theme was the lack of ‘love’ felt by some children in care, for example the debate about whether foster carers can hug children, and what challenges this can lead to later in life. Some attendees in senior local authority roles pledged to look into the feedback regarding ‘love’ and an MP also agreed to raise the issues from the conference at the forthcoming prime minister’s questions.

Personal reflections

My own takings from the conference were around questioning how much hope and aspiration is promoted in children’s social work practice. There are always small ways in which we can build a child’s confidence by sharing success stories of other care experienced adults. I also question more generally if we, as social workers, are really doing enough to support care experienced people from childhood through to adulthood. At times, in social work, I see many short-term decisions being made that might not take into consideration the potential longer-term impact.

As a proud social worker myself, I acknowledge that the conditions for being able to prioritise relationships over paperwork and caseloads is never easy. However, I do believe that if these messages continue to grow at conferences like this, continue to feature in the news and continue to have a powerful voice as spoken by those who are care experienced, then maybe those who run the services will have to take some notice and adjust accordingly.

A full report of the outcomes is going to be published and is available at:  www.careexperiencedconference.com

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Selina Anderson is a care experienced social worker

2 Responses to Do we think enough about love for children in care?

  1. S Gouldthorpe August 10, 2019 at 12:53 pm #

    Some years ago I worked in a residential unit with younger children, who are now all adults. I frequently think of them and wonder how they are. I have often thought that some kind of letterbox scheme should be set up so that I and colleagues, could send cards or short letters to be checked and forwarded, if it is something that the
    individual wanted. I and colleagues, I’m sure are the keepers of childhood firsts, funny stories and other memories that are often very important parts of all of our identifies and memories of nurture and care.

  2. sw August 14, 2019 at 10:13 pm #

    It good to maintain some level of contact and send cards, letters or any information about them, funny stories or memories because these are significant and it also conveys to the children how valuable and important they are.
    It is true the relationship built with them during their involvement with social care would form a part of their lives.

    However, it is important to recognise who is going to benefit from such an exercise – some adults may wish to erase their experience of social care from their memory, then to reach out and continue to form connections or make contact with them would be detrimental.

    I have come to recognise that if the action is motivated to benefit these adults, not for the local authorities agenda to present themselves in glorious light or for the social workers to project themselves how important they were, then it is defeated the purpose.

    It is important that the children/service users/ adults benefit should be on the forefront and that should drive any practice or policy, not to cover themselves which is entrenched practice.

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